The language we use with children plays a significant role in shaping their mindset, self-esteem, and future potential. Although commonly used, certain phrases can have lasting negative effects on a child’s emotional development. Here are six harmful phrases to avoid and alternative ways to communicate that empower children to grow into confident, resilient adults.
1. “Stop crying”:
That’s replaced by “I can see you are upset, let’s talk about it.” It helps in expressing emotions and working on the solution.
2. “You are too sensitive”:
That should be replaced by “It’s alright to feel deep, let’s understand why you’re feeling this way.” This helps with emotional intelligence.
3. “Because I said so”:
Use instead “Here’s why I want you to do this…” Teach them to be respectful of authorities while at the same time think for themselves.
4. “You’ll never be good at this”:
Instead, try “With practice, you will get better. Let’s try again.” Teaches a child to have a growth mindset and is resilient.
5. “Stop acting like that”:
Try saying, “Let’s find a better way to express what you’re feeling.” This teaches children to manage their emotions appropriately.
6. “You’re not smart enough”:
Instead, say, “You’re working hard, and that’s what matters. Keep it up!” This reinforces the value of effort and determination.
Words have a lot of power, and negative language can limit a child’s belief in themselves, which will affect their future growth. Using positive, supportive language helps children build the confidence and mindset they need to realize their full potential.
